Shit tests and magic

One of most misunderstood terms in Pick Up is

 

“SHIT TEST”

 

I see it all the time online (my forum included) and then after I read the post I am left wondering where the shit test was, or even worse, reading something where the girl is making it clear as day that she is NOT interested in the guy but he takes it as a shit test(maybe because she was giving him “shit” when she told him to fuck off??)

So to get us both on the same page, think of a SHIT TEST as a CONGRUENCY TEST.

She is seeing if you are CONGRUENT with the confident vibe you are putting out there, if you really are the confident guy who (unlike most guys in there) had the balls to approach her, and she is seeing if you are man enough….to handle a woman like her.

If you are confident and congruent with what you are spitting, and not just using a few canned lines you got out of a book,  it can actually be pretty easy to deal with.

NOTICE that I didn’t say “pass”.

I am not there to PASS her tests, I am talking to her to see if SHE is cool enough for ME. (part of my whole Alpha Male mindset ūüôā )

So just like your job or any hobby you have, if someone asks you a few follow up questions you should be able to respond pretty easily to almost anything they say….because you have legit experience in that area and it is one with you.

 

Before I became “Bravo” the 2 ways I had to deal with this the most was with magic and my tactical background.

With the gun, knife, tactical teaching stuff- every guy who has served, studied martial arts, or was just into it would want to know HOW I got into it and who I had worked with. There are so many posers in this field, that guys still come up to me at PUA events and will resume check me.
-which I am 100% fine with….because I am congruent ūüôā

 

The BIG area that this really came up with is with magic.

I was really into magic as a kid…but then one day some guys in school said it was dumb, so I stopped doing it. I was still REALLY into it, watched every special on TV there was, and would even do a few illusions during lunch breaks in my gun classes…to relax the vibe. But it wasn’t until I got into self help that I realized a life where I avoided things that I am into because someone that I don’t care about tells me they are lame= a shitty life. So I got back into, REALLY back into it, got pretty fucking good and for a long time magic was one of my PUA crutches. ¬†I would carry a few decks of cards on me at all times! But not because I always wanted to be ready, but because if I didn’t have them I wouldn’t be able to DHV, so wouldn’t be able to approach…oh man. It was however, AMAZING at helping me get good at dealing with people’s shit tests. Once you are able to control a large group, deal with guys giving you shit and trying to ruin it, deal with the drunk girl trying to take all of the attention= talking to a few girls is easy son!

So when I came across this vid, it instantly brought me back to some of the shit I had to deal with.

It’s for some new movie about stage magicians, the preview looked dumb, the kid in the video always gets me confused with the nerdy kid from Arrested Development, and to make it worse- the chick in the vid fucks up his shit and didn’t play along

AFTER SHE WAS THE ONE WHO ASKED HIM TO PERFORM

 

 

 

Now one thing I loved about this vid is the way he gave her the business right back. At the end when he really zings her with how he doesn’t want to find her, she even laughs at the end when she says he is “such a jerk”.

She doesn’t REALLY think he is a jerk!
-and even if she does, I would rather a woman have AN emotional reaction when interacting with me than NO reaction, it’s easier to turn a negative into a positive than a DEAD ZONE into a positive.

She clearly has an attitude….. which some guys love, and from my years of¬†experience¬†have a feeling that if a guy couldn’t handle a few of her smart ass remarks there would be ZERO chance she would ever become attracted to him.

Which this leads into something I teach called DEALING WITH RESISTANCE.

I teach there are 3 ways to deal with resistance, and this vid was a great example of 1 of the ways

 

FORCE vs FORCE

 

Think about Mike Tyson throwing a punch at your head. Even if you have done some boxing and have a good block, his punch is going to blast right thru you and still do damage.
-less than optimal response

Now think of a 5 year old kid throwing the exact same punch and you block exactly the same. You are going to avoid any damage AND also very likely, the kid is going to hurt their arm/fist on you.

In one instance it was the wrong move, and the other it worked out great. It all depends on who had the stronger force, and they ended up “winning”.

examples=

“those jeans are kind of gay”

“no they aren’t they are actually really cool”

or

“you walk around with a knife in your pocket”

“ya, it’s a great tool and I use it all the time”

See how it can be a fine line between qualifying, just matter of factly responding or like the punch a GREAT response?

One issue, like in the video, is that it is harder to LEAD the story somewhere else…you are just kind of left hanging with the person who’s frame/force was stronger to move on, which once you are good you can start thinking a few steps ahead of others. Also when dealing with people who out rank you (boss, cops, etc.), you maybe don’t want to do this because even if you “win” they can still trump you and fire you, or arrest you.

Dealing with force by meeting with force is definitely a way to deal with resistance…..but some times not the BEST way.

Especially for a guy who is working on improving his PUA skills, it can quickly turn into a pissing match.

 

If this resonates with any of you, let me know in the comments and I can make this a 3 part-er and cover the next 2 ways.

 

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Hover hand: Don’t become another victim

from knowyourmeme.com:

 

About

Hover Hand is an awkward photo pose in which the subject wraps an arm around a companion with their hand hovering away from the companion’s body. Often spotted in casual group photographs, hover hands usually signify that the person feels uncomfortable or lacks the confidence required to make physical contact.

Most of us have know about the cringe inducing HOVER HAND for a few years now, here are a few awesome/horrible examples=

 

What started it all

It's good to be the king

Jelly?

Vacation Hover

It even crosses the racial divide!

 

Why do guys hover hand?

Because they are too scared to touch a girl!

 

But I learned something many years ago while watching TV late at night….. by myself….. when the GIRLS GONE WILD commercials played (besides the fact I could speed whack before it ended)

 

 

Chicks will actually do crazy shit that they normally wouldn’t do, if a camera is on them!

 

When I was first working on my PUA skills on the mean streets of Tempe, my wing and I came up with a plan. Each night one of us would carry the digital camera, remember this was before every cell phone had a decent camera and it took up a lot of room in your pockets. You can follow the same plan, just decide who is on camera duty with your cell phone each night.

Whoever had the camera was in charge of snapping a few good pics of the other guy when he noticed he was in a good set because

  • Pictures are a great reason for a guy to get close to a girl (when you are still in AFC land trying to justify getting close) and because it was your ¬†wing’s idea, you felt safe doing. To kick up a notch he would say stuff like
  1. smile bigger
  2. you are too far apart, get closer
  3. give him a kiss
  4. both of you give him a kiss
  5. etc..

 

  • If it’s a good pic, very easy for you to offer to text it to her (makes sense to use YOUR phone for this, so a good wing would ask for it before) and now you have her number.

 

  • I had the mindset that I was going to get something out of each set I opened= value no matter what! So if the girls weren’t digging me I at least got some practice, or a solid pic that I could use online. (this one is really useful for the guys who always complain in my Online Game 2.0 program that they don’t have any pictures, who aren’t yet at a level where they can get cool DHV pics easily. Just don’t put up a picture like the guys above)

 

  • It gives you an¬†opportunity¬†to initiate or escalate KINO – which the basic rule on KINO is as much as you can, as fast as you can, WITHOUT creeping her out. Maybe you have been doing a little touchy feely, a camera comes out and as the picture gets taken you pull her in for the kiss…and things escalate quickly from there- I know for a fact this works.

 

  • To everyone else around in the venue, posing for cool/fun pics with people, gives the impression that you are friends with them. (I cover this more in my personal coaching and have been working on a blog post about this, but you want to look from 3 different perspectives- yours, her’s, and everyone¬†else’s). You being the center of attention for one group makes it easier to initiate conversations with others.

 

No one likes a crappy picture, so by HOVER HANDING you are actually ruining the picture, and non-verbally conveying that you are a giant pussy.

So don’t

 

Instead, be like these guys at a Special Needs athletic eventSpecial OlympicsLike a BOSS

PX 4 is coming…

Bravohood members have been asking when the next Project X was going down…

I’ve had more coaching and 1on1’s than ever before (going to bed shortly, 3 days of 1on1 starting tomorrow) and because I put in SO much energy and time planning and running PX, I’ve been waiting until I had a break in my work schedule before I could commit to the next one.

Well that break is coming up.

 

I will be locking down specific dates and times shortly, then opening up the application phase again.
So if you read the reviews on my forum, the threads the guys who have previously attended have posted, (one of my favorites was DJNinja’s foursome) and want in, get ready.

I will only be accepting 6 guys again, and don’t know when I will offer then next one….

She thanks me for taking her virginity…

“I’m really lucky that my first time is with you” -a lovely, 22 year old, dancer, former virgin.

In this audio, listen to PROOF that you can be smooth with the ladies, NOT be a dirtbag, and actually have them THANK you for fucking their brains out.

 

Thank_you_from_a_virgin_BravoPUA.mp3

 

….I have a rough life, but I do it all for you guys!

ūüėČ

“NICE guys” love to try and get on their moral high horse when getting into pick up. They develop a set of beliefs about what is RIGHT and what is WRONG, either thru crappy love movies, bad advice from women, or just from their distorted imagination about what women want.

One of the most frustrating things, as a coach, is trying to break thru this….getting them to realize they don’t understand women and to drop all of their incorrect and¬†unsubstantiated¬†beliefs.

So while we were laying in bed after sex, and the conversation started to go down this path, I thought hearing it from a woman might help some of you- so quickly grabbed my camera! (which of course is always strategically places near my bed)

We already talked about my job and everything I do, and we also made some videos after this…further proving that she was a NAUGHTY girl just WAITING for a man to come along and make her feel safe enough to share her inner slut, which I was happy to help.

Which leads into another important lesson. The sex toy industry is already over 4 BILLION dollars a year, which is a market dominated by women (toys for women / porn for men)- how much more proof do guys need that women WANT sex!!!

Lastly the audio also proves that being 100% open and honest with your intentions can lead to some amazing experiences.

 

Isn’t it about time you learn how to be the man they are playing with themselves every night thinking about?

 

COACHING with Bravo

 

She actually contacted ME first on PoF, because of my profile which I cover in my Online Game 2.0 program

 

How awesome is that?

She hit on ME first, and then thanked me for fucking her.

 

The Warrior Creed

The Warrior Creed

by Robert L. Humphrey

“Wherever I go,
everyone is a little bit safer because I am there.

Wherever I am,
anyone in need has a friend.

Whenever I return home,
everyone is happy I am there.”

————-

 

Before I got into Pick Up, when I was a firearms and tactical instructor, I put the Warrior Creed on the first page of every training manual I wrote. It resonated with me then, and even more so now.

The first part is what originally clicked. I was teaching survival skills, skills that people would hopefully NEVER need to use, but if they did need them, they would be prepared.

The 2nd part made sense because…..well anyone who knows me in real life, knows how I treat others, and also how I like to keep my good deeds private. ūüôā

The last part, that was always the one that I felt I connected with the least. I wasn’t really close to my family, had a few close friends, but for the most part did my own thing. I could leave town for a week, and nobody would even know I was gone. I can remember thinking, if I died, how many people would even notice or miss me?

After I started my self improvement journey and then got into Pick Up, I learned how to connect with others on a deeper level. For the first time in my life, I actually started to think that people WOULD miss me, and that they would actually be excited to see me when I return.

Now I don’t just think that, I KNOW that!

Such a short and simple adage, which means so much

If each section doesn’t resonate with you-

  • why not?
  • what are you doing to change that?
  • what goals have you set in your life, and are you¬†actively¬†working on reaching them?

 

One of my recent goals was to eat sushi and drink sake in Japan, and as I prepare to fly there next week, I know that like always, everyone around me is safer, because I am there. No matter where I go, even if I can’t speak the language, I will make friends and have fun.

Lastly, I know that I will be missed and when I return, those I care about will be happy to see me.

-If I don’t fall in love with a Geisha girl or go to war with the Yakuza (sucks for THEM!), I should be back around the middle of the month. I will be checking my email and will get back to any customers as soon as I can throughout, but for much of this trip I will not have access to the internet. Which is exactly what I need ūüėĬ†