Shit tests and magic

One of most misunderstood terms in Pick Up is

 

“SHIT TEST”

 

I see it all the time online (my forum included) and then after I read the post I am left wondering where the shit test was, or even worse, reading something where the girl is making it clear as day that she is NOT interested in the guy but he takes it as a shit test(maybe because she was giving him “shit” when she told him to fuck off??)

So to get us both on the same page, think of a SHIT TEST as a CONGRUENCY TEST.

She is seeing if you are CONGRUENT with the confident vibe you are putting out there, if you really are the confident guy who (unlike most guys in there) had the balls to approach her, and she is seeing if you are man enough….to handle a woman like her.

If you are confident and congruent with what you are spitting, and not just using a few canned lines you got out of a book,  it can actually be pretty easy to deal with.

NOTICE that I didn’t say “pass”.

I am not there to PASS her tests, I am talking to her to see if SHE is cool enough for ME. (part of my whole Alpha Male mindset ūüôā )

So just like your job or any hobby you have, if someone asks you a few follow up questions you should be able to respond pretty easily to almost anything they say….because you have legit experience in that area and it is one with you.

 

Before I became “Bravo” the 2 ways I had to deal with this the most was with magic and my tactical background.

With the gun, knife, tactical teaching stuff- every guy who has served, studied martial arts, or was just into it would want to know HOW I got into it and who I had worked with. There are so many posers in this field, that guys still come up to me at PUA events and will resume check me.
-which I am 100% fine with….because I am congruent ūüôā

 

The BIG area that this really came up with is with magic.

I was really into magic as a kid…but then one day some guys in school said it was dumb, so I stopped doing it. I was still REALLY into it, watched every special on TV there was, and would even do a few illusions during lunch breaks in my gun classes…to relax the vibe. But it wasn’t until I got into self help that I realized a life where I avoided things that I am into because someone that I don’t care about tells me they are lame= a shitty life. So I got back into, REALLY back into it, got pretty fucking good and for a long time magic was one of my PUA crutches. ¬†I would carry a few decks of cards on me at all times! But not because I always wanted to be ready, but because if I didn’t have them I wouldn’t be able to DHV, so wouldn’t be able to approach…oh man. It was however, AMAZING at helping me get good at dealing with people’s shit tests. Once you are able to control a large group, deal with guys giving you shit and trying to ruin it, deal with the drunk girl trying to take all of the attention= talking to a few girls is easy son!

So when I came across this vid, it instantly brought me back to some of the shit I had to deal with.

It’s for some new movie about stage magicians, the preview looked dumb, the kid in the video always gets me confused with the nerdy kid from Arrested Development, and to make it worse- the chick in the vid fucks up his shit and didn’t play along

AFTER SHE WAS THE ONE WHO ASKED HIM TO PERFORM

 

 

 

Now one thing I loved about this vid is the way he gave her the business right back. At the end when he really zings her with how he doesn’t want to find her, she even laughs at the end when she says he is “such a jerk”.

She doesn’t REALLY think he is a jerk!
-and even if she does, I would rather a woman have AN emotional reaction when interacting with me than NO reaction, it’s easier to turn a negative into a positive than a DEAD ZONE into a positive.

She clearly has an attitude….. which some guys love, and from my years of¬†experience¬†have a feeling that if a guy couldn’t handle a few of her smart ass remarks there would be ZERO chance she would ever become attracted to him.

Which this leads into something I teach called DEALING WITH RESISTANCE.

I teach there are 3 ways to deal with resistance, and this vid was a great example of 1 of the ways

 

FORCE vs FORCE

 

Think about Mike Tyson throwing a punch at your head. Even if you have done some boxing and have a good block, his punch is going to blast right thru you and still do damage.
-less than optimal response

Now think of a 5 year old kid throwing the exact same punch and you block exactly the same. You are going to avoid any damage AND also very likely, the kid is going to hurt their arm/fist on you.

In one instance it was the wrong move, and the other it worked out great. It all depends on who had the stronger force, and they ended up “winning”.

examples=

“those jeans are kind of gay”

“no they aren’t they are actually really cool”

or

“you walk around with a knife in your pocket”

“ya, it’s a great tool and I use it all the time”

See how it can be a fine line between qualifying, just matter of factly responding or like the punch a GREAT response?

One issue, like in the video, is that it is harder to LEAD the story somewhere else…you are just kind of left hanging with the person who’s frame/force was stronger to move on, which once you are good you can start thinking a few steps ahead of others. Also when dealing with people who out rank you (boss, cops, etc.), you maybe don’t want to do this because even if you “win” they can still trump you and fire you, or arrest you.

Dealing with force by meeting with force is definitely a way to deal with resistance…..but some times not the BEST way.

Especially for a guy who is working on improving his PUA skills, it can quickly turn into a pissing match.

 

If this resonates with any of you, let me know in the comments and I can make this a 3 part-er and cover the next 2 ways.

 

2 lessons from dirty homeless people – that can help your game

“Holy shit, I just had to call someone and share this, I am stuck in traffic on Fairfax and there is some fat homeless lady SHITTING in the gutter!”

 

“Well….welcome to LA!”

 

Anyone who has been stuck in LA traffic knows how insane it is- and just so you guys can fully appreciate it, here is a vid I took years ago where a handicapped dude with a wonked up leg, gets around faster than me in my truck!

 

 

Now that you know clearly how bad it is, this intersection is even worse, 3 lights later and I haven’t moved an inch.

So when she pulled down her filthy purple sweat pants and just started shitting away next to the CVS, I was stuck there for all of it’s glory.

 

As she started taking care of business, I looked around at all of the people who were also witnessing this horrible, HORRIBLE sight, and to see their reactions. (I at least wanted to get something good out of this!)

People in the cars around me either didn’t even see it (great level of awareness) or they pretended like they didn’t.

Just then a small group exited the CVS and turned left, heading right towards her……finally something good was going to come of this, the guys and the girl would see it and FREAK OUT¬†resulting¬†in lulz

 

….at least I¬†imagined¬†they would

 

Slowly they got closer….and closer…UNTIL

 

The girl moved her head a few inches to her right….then shot it straight forward again as they walked past her.

 

NOTHING

DAMMIT

 

As soon as they got a few steps past the mad shitter, I saw her elbow the guy on the left, her eyes grow large and she mouthed the words

“OH MY GOD!”

They all looked over their shoulder for a second, turned around,¬†exchanged¬†a few words, but didn’t look back and didn’t stop walking.

 

So now one of the most horrible and disgusting sites I have ever witnessed in my life, only garnered a look and an elbow, thus resulting in me calling my friend to share it with her.

 

Afterwards it got me thinking, one of the BIGGEST fears guys have when approaching chicks is-

 

THE FEAR OF BEING WATCHED

 

  • What if people are watching me hit on her?
  • What if I get rejected in front of people?
  • What if they hear what I say?
  • etc.

Well here is some news for you

NO ONE GIVES A SHIT!

The dirty homeles lady TAKING A SHIT proved this!
There she was, shitting for the whole world to see and

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Guess what, you know how you (currently or use to) walk around in your own bubble, with your head down, missing most of what goes on in the world, ¬†and worrying about everyone else judging you…

EVERYONE DOES THAT

and the people who don’t, don’t give a fuck about you, and they sure as fuck don’t give a shit about you walking over to a girl and hitting on her!

 

LOOK AT THAT HETROSEXUAL OVER THERE TALKING TO THAT HOT CHICK… ¬†LETS GET HIM BOYS!!!

 

So lesson #1 is

GET RID OF THAT IRRATIONAL FEAR ABOUT BEING WATCHED, YOU AREN’T THAT BIG OF A DEAL IN THEIR WORLD

 

 

Next up is the fear of rejection

 

When was the last time a dirty bum hit you up for some spare change?

How many times has this happened in your whole life?

(hard to remember isn’t it?)

 

I have gotten pretty good with my serious face throughout the years, homeless people usually know better than to ask me. I also really HATE it when those fuckers hit me up.

Ya let me GIVE you some of my money, that I worked hard for, so you can go eat, or more likely, go get some drugs- FOR FREE!!!

=FUCK OFF

 

(but I will be honest, the last one who hit me up outside the UPS store had a dog and got 75 cents from me, using the sympathy pet card…well played you dirty bearded fuck…well played)

 

If a bum had AA or was scared of being rejected, he wouldn’t be able to eat, or score!

I usually just ignore them, but man have I heard some HORRIBLE shit said to them in my life!

So I have rejected, or flat out ignored more bums than I could even guess, but seconds later when I get in my car, I don’t give them a second thought.

EVEN if I did, all day, until I was in bed that night looking up at the ceiling, shaking a fist and screaming

 

“DAMN YOU YOU FILTHY BUM! HOW DARE YOU ASK ME FOR A QUARTER!!!!!”

 

it would have 0% effect on him and the rest of his life

I¬†guarantee¬†he has already forgotten about it, so the only place that it would “live on” is in my mind.

-and back to lesson #1, even if someone else saw it, they wouldn’t care either.

 

Just like us walking out of the grocery store, and we see the homeless guy start to snap into action, we kick into autopilot mode and deal with it and either blow him off, make an excuse, ignore him, or give him something.

EVERY other homeless guy before him has helped program our reaction.

So lets flip it, you approach some hottie and she blows you off.

  • EVERY other guy who has approached her had a hand her her reaction to you, so don’t take it personally.
  • 2nd, if she does blow you out, seconds later she has ALREADY FORGOTTEN about you and isn’t giving you a 2nd thought,¬†so why are you?
  • 3rd even if she DID, all that night she kept fuming over the guy who talked to her and asked her about her¬†opinion¬†on something, she went home and took off her push up bra and fake eyelashes, and was looking in the mirror with bloodshot eyes full of anger towards you- you would’t even know and it has 0% effect on you.

So lesson #2 is

GET RID OF THAT POINTLESS FEAR OF REJECTION, IT’S GOING TO HAPPEN, IT DOESN’T MATTER, AND THE ONLY PLACE IT LIVES ON IS IN YOUR HEAD

-IF you let it